1. Observe your child and encourage him/her to recognize the things that he/she enjoys doing or is especially good at.

We all do different things differently. Pay attention to your child and take note of what he/she enjoys doing most or is very good at. Some children enjoy reading, others dancing or climbing. Not all skills are represented by physical actions, so if the child expresses him/herself in more subtle ways, his/her talents risk staying hidden. The child can, for example, have great empathy towards others. Instead of identifying a child’s strength directly, help him/her to realise for themselves. When children begin to recognise their strengths, they can also begin to believe in their own abilities and the possibilities that go with them.


2. Make time for inspirational activities

By exploring activities together, you will find things that interest and inspire the child. If the child enjoys drawing, give him/her the tools and some quiet time to create some art. Inspiring things can also be small, everyday things. Let the child help you out at home – even if you would be much faster doing it by yourself!


3. Encourage talking positively about others

Help the child to see that everybody gets excited about different things and excels in different ways. Show children how to give positive feedback to others by talking about the people in your life and the things they are good at. It feels good to give a compliment that makes someone feel happy!


4. Lead by example

Do things together that also inspire you. When you feel inspired you help your child feel inspired too, and everyday life suddenly seems more fun. Reflect on yourself as a parent: what are my strengths as a parent? What am I especially good at? You can read more about character strengths at http://www.viacharacter.org/www/Character-Strengths-Survey


Tips Maija Nuorteva